Timeline of Kate Gosselin and Steve Neild’s Relationship, From Bodyguard to Dating

Kate Gosselin has found love again – but not everyone believes his story.

After Kate announced she was in a relationship, her ex-husband, Jon Gosselinhad a lot to say. “I really think he’s his bodyguard Steve [Neild]100 percent. He was a constant person in his life,” he said. The Sun in October 2025. “I’m not even upset that she’s with anyone…I’m more concerned about when it actually happened because I’ve known for a long, long time, at least 17 years, that they were dating or together. Obviously, it’s been over a year.”

Kate later revealed that she and Neild, who divorced in September 2023, were in a relationship.

Keep scrolling to learn more about Kate and Neild’s relationship.

He began working for the Gosselins after the success of their show

Neild started working for Jon and Kate Gosselin after their reality show Jon and Kate Plus 8 became a hit for TLC. Neild continued to work for Kate after she and Jon divorced in 2009.

Kate denied having an affair

Rumors that Kate and Neild had an affair surfaced while she and Jon were divorcing in 2009. According to NBC Washington, Kate shut down those rumors in 2009.

“The next story that comes out of the animals stalking us is about our security guard and his family,” she said in an interview with People at the time, referring to Neild. “Already, the allegations they are making about me are disgusting, unthinkable, unfathomable, and I am horrified.”

He got a new job in 2013

Neild took a new job at Viacom as a security consultant in 2013 and started his own company in 2020.

Steve Neild divorced in 2023

Neild was married to his ex-wife Gina Neild from September 1990 until their divorce in September 2023. The couple shares two children, Christopher And Michael. In his divorce petition, obtained by Wehe listed the wedding date as September 22, 1990, and noted that they were married in a ceremony in Auckland, New Zealand.

Kate announced she was dating in 2023

Kate also revealed that she was in a relationship in September 2023 during a Q&A on TikTok. When asked if she was dating anyone, Kate replied, “The answer to that question is actually, ultimately, yes. I’ve been dating someone for a year or a little over a year, maybe 14, 15 months.”

She added: “I’m super, super happy. He’s someone I’ve known for a very long time and I’m very, very happy.”

Kate also told fans that they shouldn’t expect to see too much of Neild on social media. As she said: “He doesn’t really want to be on TikTok. I can’t really blame him, I guess, but you might catch a glimpse of him here and there or every now and then in the future.”

Jon hinted that Kate was cheated on after her relationship was revealed

Although he was planning his own wedding at the time (Jon married Stephanie Lebo in November 2025), Jon posted a screenshot of the Page six article confirming Kate and Steve were dating shortly after the announcement and captioned it: “Guess who really ruined the marriage.” »

The couple’s son, Collin, who is estranged from his mother, also wrote on social media: “What really bothers me is that my mother had an affair with our bodyguard in 2009 and shared hotel rooms with him for years while we went on family vacations, while I was in a connected room! Now everyone thinks being with him is a cute romance. In fact, my father has received death threats and has been shunned by the public for years for ‘having an affair’ and ‘leaving his children.’

Jon repeated this claim in an interview with The Sun published in October 2025.

“I definitely think it’s her bodyguard Steve, 100 percent. He’s been a constant person in her life,” he said. “I’m not even upset that she was with anyone…I’m more concerned about when it actually happened because I’ve known for a long, long time, at least 17 years, that they were dating or together. Obviously, it’s been over a year. I know that for a fact. I have kids and I have a relationship with my kids. They tell me stuff.”

Jon also said, “I was called a cheater by TLC and Kate for 17 years. Our divorce didn’t end because I was cheating. Our divorce ended because I knew she was seeing Steve.”